She insists that you don’t compliment her enough.
He says you’re only with him for his money.
When you’re on the receiving end of statements like this, it’s human to become defensive. Defensiveness means no one is being heard. Two people not listening quickly becomes two people yelling.
Is it possible to love someone enough to listen, even when it hurts? If you conciously decide to not become defensive, can you hear her insecurity? Can choosing to listen allow you to hear his fear?
