Ladies, let’s talk about sex for a moment.
Many of us have this preconceived notion that guys are all about sex, all of the time. We think he’s always looking for a way to get into our pants. We believed Harry when he told us men couldn’t have platonic female friends because they wanted to have sex with all women. And being particularly nice one evening is always written off as having the ulterior motive of getting some action later on.
If you’re dating a 17 year old boy, then maybe the above is true, and you’re probably right. All he wants to do is get you in bed.
If you’re with a man, though, I would think twice before jumping to the same tried and true male stereotypes.
Men enjoy sex when their woman enjoys sex. Seriously. Turning you on, turns him on. He wants to know that you enjoy his touch and that he can please you.
So much of a man’s identity is tied up in his sexuality. For many men, losing their virginity is the first time they learn to identify themselves as men. It’s only natural then that a significant part of how they see themselves comes from how they please their women.
Let your appreciation for how good he makes you feel known to him. Moan a little louder. Initiate your next sexual experience. Ask him to do that thing you love so much tonight. Beg him for more.
Appreciating his sexuality, this core part of him, will change your relationship and how he interacts with you.
***I am NOT saying to fake an orgasm or to lie in the bedroom. No, no, no. Just don’t let what you enjoy go un-praised.
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