Comments on: More than a feeling http://nashvillemarriagestudio.com/uncategorized/more-than-a-feeling/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=more-than-a-feeling Mon, 06 Feb 2012 21:03:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Milad http://nashvillemarriagestudio.com/uncategorized/more-than-a-feeling/#comment-42 Milad Mon, 11 Jul 2011 01:54:25 +0000 http://nashvillemarriagestudio.com/blog/?p=215#comment-42 Thanks! I needed that slap & push7 Thanks! I needed that slap & push7

]]> By: Marie http://nashvillemarriagestudio.com/uncategorized/more-than-a-feeling/#comment-41 Marie Tue, 16 Jun 2009 17:48:06 +0000 http://nashvillemarriagestudio.com/blog/?p=215#comment-41 Elisa, I totally agree. Empathy is valuable for BOTH sexes. I made some gender generalizations with this post, that aren't always the case. The advice in the post is actually directed more towards the difference between Thinkers vs. Feelers which can be stereotypically equivalent to Man vs. Woman. The other part is that, from a counseling perspective, whoever is "emotional" needs to have their feelings validated/heard before they can begin to approach the situation with a more logical mindset (like "Oh, he's problem solving because he wants to help me" rather than "He's problem solving because he doesn't want to listen to me") You're very right, though, women have their own steps to take to meet in the middle on the communication disconnect! Elisa, I totally agree. Empathy is valuable for BOTH sexes. I made some gender generalizations with this post, that aren’t always the case. The advice in the post is actually directed more towards the difference between Thinkers vs. Feelers which can be stereotypically equivalent to Man vs. Woman.

The other part is that, from a counseling perspective, whoever is “emotional” needs to have their feelings validated/heard before they can begin to approach the situation with a more logical mindset (like “Oh, he’s problem solving because he wants to help me” rather than “He’s problem solving because he doesn’t want to listen to me”)

You’re very right, though, women have their own steps to take to meet in the middle on the communication disconnect!

]]> By: Elisa http://nashvillemarriagestudio.com/uncategorized/more-than-a-feeling/#comment-40 Elisa Tue, 16 Jun 2009 02:05:39 +0000 http://nashvillemarriagestudio.com/blog/?p=215#comment-40 Just to devils advocate a little bit, why should guys have to adjust THEIR way of listening to facilitate the conversation? Why shouldn't girls also try to put themselves in their guys' shoes? Guys are hardwired to be the hunter/gatherer/protectors of their households and though the "wilds" have changed many of the instincts have not. When they have someone they love upset about a problem, they immediately go to their fight or flight reactions and want to protect and solve. If us girls could learn to understand THAT as well, and be more concerned when the guys in our lives DON'T care enough to get upset, then maybe we'd be a step closer in bridging the communications gaps that occur between the sexes. Just to devils advocate a little bit, why should guys have to adjust THEIR way of listening to facilitate the conversation? Why shouldn’t girls also try to put themselves in their guys’ shoes?

Guys are hardwired to be the hunter/gatherer/protectors of their households and though the “wilds” have changed many of the instincts have not. When they have someone they love upset about a problem, they immediately go to their fight or flight reactions and want to protect and solve. If us girls could learn to understand THAT as well, and be more concerned when the guys in our lives DON’T care enough to get upset, then maybe we’d be a step closer in bridging the communications gaps that occur between the sexes.

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