Nashville Marriage Studio

Seth Godin’s book “The Dip” talks about the importance of defining the terms of quitting before you begin.  If you don’t you’ll be the runner who gives up on the marathon because her legs are starting to get tired.  If you don’t you’ll be the inventor who gives up because  5 attempts at the remote control doggie door fail.

Define the dip for your marriage before it even starts.  Define what “enough” is so that you’ll know it when you see it.  Define the dip so that you won’t be discouraged by the inevitable fatigue and failure that comes with the marital territory.  Define the dip so that you won’t be tricked into quitting before you really want to.

There are times when a couple needs to quit the marriage.  A point where it isn’t worth trying anymore.  Define those times before you start.

Seth Godin is awesome.  At marketing.  And starting businesses.  And writing books.  And I’m sure many other things.

After I read his book The Dip: A little book that teaches you when to quit (and when to stick) I decided that he is also awesome at love relationships.  And doesn’t even know it.

Do you know how good it feels to know something Seth doesn’t?  Amazing.

The Dip is the best book of inadvertent relationship advice that I’ve ever read.  In my entire life.  It’s great.  Because every relationship, EVERY RELATIONSHIP, is going to go through The Dip. 

Research says that marriages are most likely to end within the first 3 years.  The Dip comes for every relationship and some trudge through, and some don’t.  I’m not going to make a judgment on whether to quit or stick, but knowing that the Dip is the necessary payment for an awesome marriage in the future makes it a little easier to accept.