Comments on: Marriage is a deal. Or is it. http://nashvillemarriagestudio.com/relationships/marriage-is-a-deal-or-is-it/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=marriage-is-a-deal-or-is-it Sun, 06 May 2012 13:49:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Elisa http://nashvillemarriagestudio.com/relationships/marriage-is-a-deal-or-is-it/#comment-98 Elisa Thu, 12 Nov 2009 15:25:58 +0000 http://nashvillemarriagestudio.com/blog/?p=516#comment-98 I think people who say prenups are showing a lack of faith in marriage quite possibly don't have a lot of faith in marriage. At least not the realistic and beautiful faith in marriage. The one that says you've thought everything through and realize that there will be good days and bad ones, ups and downs and lots of other swings. The one that says this is a huge risk and adventure you are about to take, but you love this person SO MUCH that the potential for falling is worth the leap. The one that says (as Rebecca pointed out) you've talked and communicated and made a rational and mature decision about something that in truth has absolutely no place in logic and reason. Instead there's the doe-eyed belief that "hopefully" things will work out so why bother planning for the what-if's? I'm sure close to 50% of people never wanted to end up in divorce precedings, but that is (unfortunately) what happens in reality. I personally think that this is what is causing the demise of marriage. The irreverence for the union (meaning the fact that people jump into it without taking a second to consider the reailties of their marriage contract) and the commoditization of the act itself (hello drive thru wedding chapel AND divorce courts in Las Vegas?!) Kinda sad really...but great that MASTERS like you are out there trying to help people do the right thing from the beginning! :) I think people who say prenups are showing a lack of faith in marriage quite possibly don’t have a lot of faith in marriage. At least not the realistic and beautiful faith in marriage. The one that says you’ve thought everything through and realize that there will be good days and bad ones, ups and downs and lots of other swings. The one that says this is a huge risk and adventure you are about to take, but you love this person SO MUCH that the potential for falling is worth the leap. The one that says (as Rebecca pointed out) you’ve talked and communicated and made a rational and mature decision about something that in truth has absolutely no place in logic and reason.

Instead there’s the doe-eyed belief that “hopefully” things will work out so why bother planning for the what-if’s? I’m sure close to 50% of people never wanted to end up in divorce precedings, but that is (unfortunately) what happens in reality.

I personally think that this is what is causing the demise of marriage. The irreverence for the union (meaning the fact that people jump into it without taking a second to consider the reailties of their marriage contract) and the commoditization of the act itself (hello drive thru wedding chapel AND divorce courts in Las Vegas?!) Kinda sad really…but great that MASTERS like you are out there trying to help people do the right thing from the beginning! :)

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]]> By: Marie McKinney-Oates, MMFT http://nashvillemarriagestudio.com/relationships/marriage-is-a-deal-or-is-it/#comment-96 Marie McKinney-Oates, MMFT Tue, 03 Nov 2009 18:21:43 +0000 http://nashvillemarriagestudio.com/blog/?p=516#comment-96 Rebecca, you're so right about the prenups being a sign of being able to consider all the ways your future can pan out in a responsible and mature manner. And shutting our eyes and hoping for the best has been the plan for marriage for far too long. Rebecca, you’re so right about the prenups being a sign of being able to consider all the ways your future can pan out in a responsible and mature manner. And shutting our eyes and hoping for the best has been the plan for marriage for far too long.

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