Nashville Marriage Studio

Imagine that you really need to get in touch with someone.  You’ve been stranded on the side of the road with a flat tire.  You need to let someone know so they can come pick you up.

You start dialing.  You get a busy signal.  You send a text message.  It goes ignored.  You start a fire to send smoke signals…

No one is responding to your cry for help.

You start crying.  You try fixing the tire on your own until you quickly realize the only thing you remember from Scouts is how to send smoke signals.  You stomp around.  You try to get the attention of a passing trucker.  Trucker looks scary.  You try to UN-get the attention of the passing trucker…

Can you feel the frustration? The abandonment? The fear of being left to die alone?

Yes, it’s dramatic.  However, I don’t know if anything better captures how it feels to be in a relationship with a Hider.

You men Hiders know who you are.  Hiders think that if they can ignore the problem it will go away.  Pretend you didn’t see her pouting when you decided to go golfing instead of sticking around to help clean the garage.  Yeah. Let me know how that works out for you.

And the time you’ve spent hiding, not returning her proverbial phonecall, is causing more fear, more doubt, and more anger to get stirred up.  She may have been slightly irritated when you picked up your golf clubs, but when you ignored her cries for reassurance?  Yeah, she got emotional and she’s going to keep getting louder and louder until she knows she has been heard.  It’s as simple as that.

Hiders, quit ignoring your partner’s call for love, affection or security.  Pick up the phone.