Engaged Couples: Don’t be fooled by flowery words
I love the way it feels to be in love. The way it seems like nothing can go wrong and that everything in the world is beautiful.
It’s a wonderful feeling.
I also love flowery words. Heck, I’m married to a songwriter who can stir up powerful emotions inside of me with a few piano chords and some pretty lyrics.
I’m a sucker just like the rest of you.
I would like to put out a warning, though. The pretty words and the mushy gushy feelings are not what amazing marriages are built on…
Jessica Simpson & Nick Lachey
Nick Lachey said that the first time he heard Simpson sing he “got chills” and told his bandmates, “I’m going to marry that girl one day.” (Buzzle.com)
“Nick Lachey asked me to marry him in a very romantic way and I said yes!!! He had been patiently waiting for me to grow up a little (which I needed). And I did! Now my life feels so perfect.” – Jessica Simpson, 2001
Brad Pitt & Jennifer Aniston
In their vows Brad Pitt promised to “split the difference on the thermostat” while Jennifer Aniston pledged to always make his “favorite banana milkshake.” (TheInsider.com)
“It’s very cool when you have your best friend at your side.” – Jennifer Aniston, 2001
“Dude, I’m all for [married life]. It’s exciting for us. We’ve both had time off so we’ve been enjoying our life – little vibe at home, little vibe at the beach.” – Brad Pitt, 2002
Denise Richards & Charlie Sheen
”There’s not hope for much when you’re that deep,” he says of his troubled past, “[Denise] has taught me more about myself than anybody I’ve ever been close to. I just feel so supported all the time.” – Charlie Sheen, People.com
“I knew that this is the one, but I wouldn’t tell him that. I didn’t want to scare him away by saying, ‘You’re my future husband!’ and have him run for the hills.” – Denise Richards, People.com
Beautiful words and loving feelings are a wonderful and necessary part of being in a healthy relationship. Just don’t buy into the idea that it’s all you need.
*I do not know why these marriages broke up or if they were depending on feelings to carry their marriage through. I simply used them as an illustration of beautiful words that resulted in less than fairy-tale endings.
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