Nashville Marriage Studio

It boggles my mind when I talk to couples about how they plan to make their marriage a success and this is what I hear,

“Well, divorce isn’t in my vocabulary”.

Really? That’s your plan? To not talk about the terrible d-word? That’s all you’ve got?

That’s like Moses trying to get to the Promised Land and answering his people with “Lost isn’t in my vocabulary”.

Or the friendliest girl in high school saying, “Teenage Pregnancy isn’t in my vocabulary”.

Or buying a house that’s worth half a million dollars when you make $7/hour and insisting, “Foreclosure isn’t in my vocabulary”.

The words you decide to include in your vocabulary don’t mean squat when your actions are pointing in another direction. Without action steps all you really have is wishful thinking.

If you’re insistent about building a successful relationship simply by cutting words out of your dictionary, let me suggest a few  more to get rid of:

criticism, negativity, defensiveness, resentment, bottled up feelings, lust, nagging, hiding from problems, selfishness, avoidance, aggression, lying, gossiping, belittling, shutting down, poor boundaries, people pleasing, abusing…

Get rid of those words, too, and maybe the “Divorce isn’t in my vocabulary” plan will work.

Maybe.