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My husband and I had a pretty heated argument a few weeks ago. In the midst of it my husband stayed relatively calm and collected which only seemed to infuriate me. I wanted him to react, I wanted him to understand how badly I had been hurt. I did the only thing I felt I knew how to do at the time…

I went for the jugular. I said something that I knew, without a doubt, would hurt him.

It wasn’t fair. It wasn’t helpful. It was not loving. But I did it anyways because I quit thinking about our bond and about the man I loved and had promised to take care of, and instead all I cared about was feeling better and having my point heard.

I waited for him to retaliate. I waited for him to throw a blow that would equal mine, but he didn’t. He simply said that he knew I was hurting and that he was sorry.

Once I calmed down I asked him why he has never, in the two years we’ve been married, retaliated when I’ve been mean and he said, “On our wedding day I promised to love you and take care of you. That promise doesn’t go away just because you’re being mean.”

Touche, my friend, touche. And thank you.

What are some vows you’ve made that you’re finding difficult to keep?