Things Change
My husband and I fight about tons of stuff. This is normal. And expected. However, one thing I never thought we’d fight about was politics. We dated for nearly 3 years and never once talked about politics. He didn’t even like to watch the news, much less care about who the next Supreme Court Justice would be. The worst part was we assumed we knew what the other’s political beliefs were. He assumed that since I was a Christian I was also a Republican. And I assumed that since he was more liberal in his religious views that he was a Democrat.
Boy were we wrong.
We probably could have gone the rest of our lives without this difference becoming an issue. After all, we went 3 years without thinking about it. The problem, however, was that we were married in 2008. The year of one of the most important presidential elections in history.
Before we knew it we were arguing nearly every night about immigration laws, gun control, and economic stimulus packages. In some ways I think we both looked at each other and wondered, “Who is this person?”
They tell you to talk about everything in premarital counseling. They insist that these topics that don’t feel like an issue today will more than likely be an issue tomorrow. But you’re not going to believe them. Just like my husband and I didn’t believe politics would be such a huge issue in our relationship.
There are so many variables in life that you cannot control. Presidential elections that put a spotlight on your political beliefs happen. Having children and having to decide what church to attend happens. Relocating to follow one spouse’s career happens.
Things change. How are you going to adjust?
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