Nashville Marriage Studio

Peyton Manning is, in my opinion, the best thing to ever happen to football. He’s amazing. And his amazing-ness was almost reflected in a perfect season this year.

Yes, for those of you that don’t keep up with the magical world of the NFL, the Colts almost had a perfect season this year. They lost their 15th game to the Jets after deciding to rest their starters rather than risk injury.

I’m not going to lie. I was sad. Sad that Peyton and the Colts were so close to tasting the special sauce that is an undefeated season and that they let the dream slip by without being able to truly find out if they could have done it. Because once you go 14 games without losing fans start dreaming The Dream. The dream of joining the ‘72 Dolphins in perfect season history. The dream of laughing loudly in Bill Bellichick’s face. I mean…

Like I said, there was sadness because the dream of perfection was gone. The dreams of the Super Bowl, however, were not even close to gone, but perfection? Yes, perfection was dead.

And I think that same sadness happens after your first real fight as a  married couple. I’m not talking about that silly fight about who loves each other more. No, I’m talking about real fights.

That fight about finding pornography on the computer.

That fight about how much money is being spent at Target.

That fight about over feeling unappreciated and just wanting to quit.

You know. The real fights.

Real fights happen and destroy any dreams we have of the perfect marriage where everyone gets breakfast in bed and has sex twice a day.  Some of us have our first real fight and we’re ready to quit. We’ve lost the hope of the perfect marriage and give up. This phenomenon is why so many marriages end within the first 5 years, too many people expect perfect and then are confronted with reality and they don’t like it.

Have your first scary, “I don’t know if we’re going to make it” fight. It’ll be ok. It isn’t the end of your season. I promise.

*Go Colts.

*If the Saints should happen to win the Super Bowl I will be just as happy, though. I always appreciate history being made, and I heart “underdogs” (they aren’t REALLY underdogs. They had just as awesome of a season as the Colts).