Nashville Marriage Studio

Lots of us talk about coming from “dysfunctional families”. Sometimes this means that we were raised by divorced parents. Or that you saw abuse as a child. Or you were abused as a child. Or you had a mom that always forgot to pick you up from school. No matter what family you come from you probably think that your family is dysfunctional.

Thinking we come from dysfunction scares us. We start to believe that we are damaged goods. Then we tell someone we want to spend the rest of our lives together, and we pause. Will our baggage stop us from having the marriage we want? Will we make the same mistakes our parents made?

The thing is, none of us come from perfect families. We’re all messed up. That’s just the way it is.
More importantly, you survived that “dysfunctional family”. You made it out. Don’t ever underestimate the strength and courage this requires.

And now that you’ve survived your family you can make that marriage of your dreams a reality. Recognize your family’s shortcomings, where things weren’t healthy. Now make a decision. Decide that this won’t happen in your new family. Get help from a pastor or counselor if you need it, and decide that the dysfunction ends here. You survived, now decide.

Marriage requires survivors.