Nashville Marriage Studio

My favorite session of premarital counseling is the Communication one.

After spending weeks talking about emotional baggage and marital anxiety, it’s finally time to start learning how to grow closer as a couple.  The first exercise we do is one where both partners come in with a list of things they want more of in the relationship.  Each couples shares their desires using “I-statements” and active listening.  Through this activity couples learn some really important things to help their relationship a successful one…

Couples Learn the Power of Positivity

Asking for what you want rather than what you don’t want is an easy way to give your relationship a boost of positivity.  Even simple things like, “I don’t want…” create unnecessary negativity.  Not only does asking for what you want promote positive feelings it paints a more vibrant picture of what you need from the relationship.

Partners Are Empowered and Have Higher Self-Esteem

Letting your partner know what you want allows you to feel empowered and as if you have control over how fulfilling your relationship is.  It is an amazing moment when you realize that you can get what you want without having to pout or wait aimlessly. 

Hearing exactly what would please your partner also develops a higher self-esteem.  Think about it, remember those classes where the teacher seemed to constantly keep you in the dark on how to prepare for a test?  Compare that teacher with the one who was open and willing to talk about what was required to do well.  Your self-esteem and attitude towards the open and clear teacher was probably significantly higher than your attitude towards the one who seemed dead set on you failing.  Knowing what your partner wants helps you feel good about yourself and your relationship.

Everyone Wants To Go On A Date Night

I’m not sure that there is a more common request during these sessions than “I would like for us to go out more”.  Both genders and nearly every couple requests this first.  MAKE TIME WITH YOUR SWEETIE A PRIORITY.  It’s important.  And it seems like it’s what everybody wants.

If you’re interested in premarital counseling sessions with Nashville Marriage Studio, please contact Marie at marie.mckinney [at] gmail [dot] com.