Housekeeping!
Unless you are Monica Gellar, you probably don’t get your jollies from cleaning. Yes, the best feeling in the world is a clean home, but cleaning house does not typically make the list of “10 Things I Can’t WAIT To Do!”
I love this advice from Alice.com on how to keep the house straight in under 10-minutes a day. By promising to keep the chores short and to the point we’re much more likely to get them done because they no longer come with that daunting feeling.
Our relationships also need this daily clean-up. Often we let minor greivances and annoyances “clutter” the relationship. Instead of dealing with these issues as they come up we let them pile up until we can’t take it anymore. By the time we get to the “I can’t take it anymore” feeling we’re not in the mood to fix anything.
It’s when we get to that point that many of decide to get rid of the relationship rather than work on it. At this point there are too many problems to make it worth it so we throw the whole relationship away instead.
Expressing your concerns as they happen can be scary. What if I’m making too big of a deal out of this? I’m not that bothered by it, right? What if all we end up doing is fighting?
These questions are compeltely valid. It’s scary and it can feel petty to talk about issues nearly everyday. The beauty, however, is in the fact that these issues are small today. These issues are not deal breakers… yet.
Making a point to clean up the relationship regularly will help you avoid throwing away a perfectly good relationship.
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