Couple Spotlight: It was fate

by Marie McKinney-Oates on February 3, 2012

I met Wil and Mackenzie at one of my workshops last year and they are such a sweet couple. She recently sent me a blog link that featured their wedding and I begged them to be in the spotlight and they agreed. After reading their answers I couldn’t be more glad that they did.

Wil and Mackenzie have been together for 3 years and they have quite an interesting back story that I’m going to have Mackenzie share. It’s kinda trippy honestly. And by trippy I mean they were clearly meant to be!

A mutual friend introduced us in 2009. She and Wil were coworkers at a local restaurant.  Wil had just moved to Nashville to be closer to his dad and sisters.  My parents had lived in the same house for 33 years. After a couple weeks of dating as we drove to his own apartment, I pointed in the general direction of my childhood home, “My parents live up that way on Fate Street.” His response was “Really, that’s weird. My family lives over on Fate Street.”

Color us both SHOCKED.

As it turns out, they live DIRECTLY across the street from my parents and have for several years. I didn’t know them then – but now that Fate has accomplished its goal of bringing us together, let me just tell you that we do not have the ‘which family for the holidays’ argument a lot of couples have since they are just across the street from each other.   I think FATE made things pretty clear! 

wil and mackenzie

When did you know this person was The One?
Wil:
 The night we met the world stopped and I saw our future together. It sounds cliché and super cheesy, but I really knew she was the one for me right away. She took a little bit more convincing :)
Mackenzie: When I realized that at the end of the day, good or bad, he was who I wanted to tell about it. And when I realized that he wasn’t going away :)


What is the most brag-worthy quality in your spouse?
Wil: 
So far she’s managed to keep me from setting myself on fire. Many have tried and failed. I joke, because I don’t know where to begin; honestly she’s the most genuinely good-hearted person I’ve ever known.  she’s such a good person that she’s always looking for ways to be even better, and I love that about her.
Mackenzie: He is very much my hero. I admire how when he really sets his mind to something, he can accomplish anything. And everything he does is done with compassion for others. I know I can count on him no matter what.


What is your proudest accomplishment as a team?
Wil: 
Probably getting out of debt. All the debt was mine but it was something that we knew we wanted taken care of by the time we were married, so we put our heads together, set a goal, and made it happen.
Marie’s Note: Debt isn’t good, obvs, but I love hearing couples that focus on it as A TEAM and how they’re stronger for it. 


What is the biggest hurdle you’ve overcome as a team?
Trusting each other, having faith in the strength of our love, and just growing up in general. Both of us have had bad experiences in previous relationships so our expectations had to change for us to continue growing together. Being in a good position to start a family has always been really important to us and having each other to lean on has really given us a leg up on making positive life changes on an individual basis as well.


What was the best year of your relationship? Why?
This year! It gets even better every day!


What was the hardest year of your relationship? Why?
Wil: 
Probably our first year together. A lot of crazy stuff happened that year in both of our personal lives. Mackenzie lost her grandfather, who was an amazing and much loved man in her life, and while that was really difficult, it brought us together in a lot of ways. And I had a lot of growing up to do. There were hurdles between us and a stable life together. But it proved to be sort of a refining fire for our relationship and I think were a lot stronger as a couple because of it.
Mackenzie: Any obstacle we had only brought us closer. I wanted stability and someone who made me laugh. He gave me laughter and someone I knew I could count on outside of my parents. And I like to think I helped him grow up a little – but I wouldn’t dare want him to lose that childish enthusiasm that made me fall in love with him.
Marie’s Note: So many couples run away from “refining fires” and I think that’s sad. Wil and Mackenzie are a great example of what can be born if you tough it out.


What is one thing a couple can start doing today to change their relationship?
Practicing good communication – it is really the most important thing in any relationship. Talk to each other about any feeling, good or bad, and be understanding. It’s important to keep things in perspective. Marie’s pre-marital counseling class teaches appropriate ways to fight and keep things in check.  And don’t forget to laugh – sometimes things get too serious and it changes the entire mood of a moment if you laugh.
Marie’s Note: Aw, so happy to get a shout out :) If you’re interested, check out future workshops here!


What tips/advice do you have for couples going through a hard time (either with each other or just life in general)?

There is no shame in seeking help – whether it’s from a friend, lover or professional. Sometimes we get thoughts in our heads that take on lives of their own and another person can offer a more objective view. Talking about things and keeping them in perspective can really help you work through obstacles.

Thank you guys so much for playing along and your great answers!

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Ryan Gosling would support pre-marital prep

by Marie McKinney-Oates on January 31, 2012

ryan gosling premarital Ok, I’m not as funny as the real Ryan Gosling “Hey Girl” wedding planning thing.

But I’m still kinda funny.

If Ryan Gosling thinks you should have a Happily Ever After Plan, don’t you think you should too?

The online course is in full swing tomorrow and I’m beyond excited. Register here.

You can get a sample of the course here. It’s the first week minus video webinars.   

And if you’re in Middle Tennessee and would prefer a live workshop check that out here.

Because that’s what Ryan Gosling would want you to do…

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What’s your Happily Ever After Plan?

by Marie McKinney-Oates on January 30, 2012

once upon a time abc

My husband and I just started watching ABC’s Once Upon a Time and, um, it’s awesome. So far. We’re on episode three. Between this show and Revenge I have to say that ABC is currently my favorite channel ever.

Anyways.

Once Upon a Time is where all of the happy endings in fairy tales are taken away. In fairy tale world happy endings are typically a given. And now they aren’t. You know why? Because all of the fairy tales got transported to our world. And in our world? Endings suck.

Or they can suck. In our world you have to fight for your happily ever after.

That’s where my Happily Ever After Plan: Live comes in.

I have the online course (starts on Wednesday!) (get a free sample of Week 1!) and now I’m doing it live. In Brentwood. For you. Yes. You.

With the workshop you’ll get an actual plan for how to make Happily Ever After happen. Clearly this doesn’t include fairies or Rumpelstiltskin. Oh dear how I wish it did though.

You’ll walk away knowing more about your personalities, how to talk taking those personalities into consideration and how to fight in a way that actually leaves you feeling closer.

You’ll walk away with an actual plan for talking, staying close and fighting. You can’t prepare for everything, I know this, but you can build a foundation that can handle nearly anything.

Unlike my past workshops, this one is open to engaged or married couples. The only thing is that you have to be married less than 5 years.

You don’t want to miss this. Trust.

More information about the workshop.

Register for the workshops:
February
March
April

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